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“It’s after sunset and almost fully dark. What would you say to a moonlight hunt?”

Ira had just finished spinning a long and convoluted tale about how he’d acquired the warhagalla pelt on the floor by the fireplace. After tracking the beast for days through icy mountain passes, with two companions swept away in an avalanche, he’d cornered it in a rocky canyon and killed it at close range with a spear at midnight. Or so the story went, anyway; I didn’t believe a word of it.

Photo of snowy mountains behind a forest in moonlight.

(Creative Commons image via flickr)

Not that I was in any position to comment, after having been stuffed into a drawer for the past few hours. All I could do was listen while Ira cheerfully went on gabbing with the marauders that he’d invited to dinner as if they were his best buddies.

“Just today, there was a warhagalla in the forest nearby, almost twice the size of this one. I have plenty of spears. We could go hunt the beast right now, following its tracks in the snow. Quite a challenge, wouldn’t you say? The pelt goes to the last man standing.”

A loud thud, followed by raucous laughter, followed almost immediately.

“Maybe another time, when you’ve had less to drink and are able to stand,” one of the men chuckled.

“Yes, you’re probably right.” Ira’s voice came from floor level, and I heard scuffling sounds as he pulled himself up after what must have been a very impressive pratfall. He even managed to sound regretful as he added, “You’ll want to get back to your camp before it’s fully dark, then. Let me give each of you a spear and a rug, as gifts to remember our friendship. Next time you pass this way, we can hunt together.”

Ira bustled around for quite some time, gathering up his parting gifts and saying lengthy farewells, before the door finally swung shut behind the departing group. He didn’t pull the drawer open to let me out right away, which of course was smart, making sure they were all really gone. It felt like an eternity went by while Ira washed the dishes at a leisurely pace. When the drawer finally slid open, I stumbled out, blinking in the candlelight and feeling very stiff as I took off my coat and my wet shoes.

“There’s no dinner left for you, I’m sorry,” Ira said, while I lined up the shoes and socks on the hearth to dry. The warhagalla pelt was still in its place, but all the other rugs were gone, along with most of Ira’s spears.

“You can have some dried meat,” he offered, holding out a jar.

I suspected it was rat jerky, and I didn’t have much appetite after smelling mothballs all afternoon in the drawer. Taking a piece anyway, I stretched out my cold and wrinkly toes toward the fire’s warmth.

“Ira, you don’t have any reason to be sorry. You’ve been more than kind. I’m the one who should apologize, for putting you in danger by staying here. Even though I hadn’t realized you were taking a risk by giving me shelter, I should’ve known better. Now you’ve lost all those rugs and spears.”

“I gave them away,” he corrected, in the tone of a teacher lecturing a rather dull student, “and the marauders would have shown up whether or not you’d been here. This wasn’t really a loss; I keep more than I need, so that I have enough for gifts. My mother taught me always to befriend strangers. Whatever I give comes back to me, eventually. That’s how the magic works. When the gang next comes this way, they’ll bring me something that has greater value.”

Wiggling my toes, which by now were starting to feel more normal, I tried to make sense of Ira’s assertion. My first thought was that it might be some kind of religious belief, like Wiccans I’d met in Knoxville who believed they got back threefold whatever they put into the universe. Then, glancing at the fur coat that I’d hung back on its peg, I followed that logic to its uncomfortable conclusion.

“I was a stranger, and you invited me into your home,” I said slowly, reasoning it out as I went along. “You spoke the friendship charm over a meal, and then you cast a language spell so I could understand you. The next day, you gave me the fur coat, which was especially valuable to you because it had been your mother’s. So, that means I owe you something of greater value…”

“You owe nothing.” Ira cut me off sharply, raising his voice for emphasis. “Gifts must be freely given. Otherwise, they are not true gifts. Whatever comes back is never the result of a debt or obligation. It is simply a matter of balance in the world.”

This was definitely sounding like religion. I didn’t have any idea what to say. I had nothing of value besides the clothes on my back, which wouldn’t have come close to fitting Ira even if I had wanted to give them away.

“I guess you can have my Timex, if you want it. But time doesn’t seem to run the same way here,” I said dubiously, looking down at my left wrist. My Ironman watch, set to Eastern European Summer Time, was showing ten A.M. on July 12, and the band was much too small for Ira regardless.

He glanced at the watch without much interest. “The people of our cities had timekeeping devices, long ago. It’s not a life I would want, having so little connection to the natural rhythms of the seasons. Keep your device, and don’t concern yourself with what you might give me in return for the coat. Maybe you’ll find something valuable in the forest, or in a ruined building; or an idea for a gift will come to you in a dream. Everything comes into balance when the time is right.”

I still felt mostly clueless, but this time I just nodded and said, “Okay.”

During my lunch break today, I did a ten-minute online yoga session. It wasn’t really a workout, but was what’s called a restorative practice, with the focus on breathing deeply and evenly while doing some gentle stretching movements. I noticed afterward that my Garmin tracker showed I was more relaxed and had a lower heart rate, so the yoga session must have had the intended effect.

Word-art that says, "Breathe deep & let go of what you can't control."

Nurturing Thursday was started by Becca Givens and seeks to encourage self-nurturing and to “give the planet a much needed shot of fun, support and positive energy.”

This is a three-day weekend for many people in the United States because of the Independence Day holiday. I’m planning to watch the City of Dayton fireworks show but otherwise will be taking things easy, without more travels. Sending happy weekend wishes to all!

Image of fireworks and American flags.

Nurturing Thursday was started by Becca Givens and seeks to encourage self-nurturing and to “give the planet a much needed shot of fun, support and positive energy.”

The road trip to Oklahoma City went smoothly, with no delays other than my husband having to work later than expected on the day we left. I have no complaints about that because the company pays him well and that’s how we can afford our travels. We arrived early Friday afternoon, as planned, with the mini trailer parked just after the course opened for practice rowing.

Photo of SUV and mini boat trailer parked at the Stars & Stripes regatta in Oklahoma City.

The weather during practice was good, but a look at the forecast showed it wasn’t going to stay like that. Storms and high winds were on the way. My husband said he was staying frosty anyway, just chilling, and wasn’t going to let the predicted bad weather worry him.

The morning races were delayed because the storms overnight had blown away the lane marker buoys. We ended up racing in a different part of the river with no lanes, and there was a strong wind the whole time, with occasional fierce gusts. And, just as soon as the sun came out, it was broiling hot.

Even so, we succeeded in rowing at a steady pace and not letting the weather unsettle us. We got far enough ahead of the boats next to us that having no lane markers wasn’t a problem. After the morning races, we collected our medals, went back to the Airbnb to rest and relax in the air conditioning for a few hours, and returned for a 500-meter dash before packing up. Frosty and fun!

I’m traveling again with my husband this weekend, on a road trip to Oklahoma City for the Stars & Stripes regatta on Saturday; it’s a fun one with rowing races followed by kayak and dragon boat races, shorter sprint races at sunset, and then a fireworks show.

Getting ready to leave for a long weekend always feels a bit hectic, but I’m looking forward to quiet mornings on the road as a time to reset and breathe easier.

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Nurturing Thursday was started by Becca Givens and seeks to encourage self-nurturing and to “give the planet a much needed shot of fun, support and positive energy.”

At the end of the workday, my husband and I got a call from our daughter in Auckland. She was out walking her dog in the morning. When she lived nearby, she used to call often, but now it’s not as easy because of the time difference. She sounded a bit homesick, chatting about things she liked to do in June around here. We wished that we could see her in person, but we were glad to hear her voice anyway, and the simple gift of a call made today a good day.

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Nurturing Thursday was started by Becca Givens and seeks to encourage self-nurturing and to “give the planet a much needed shot of fun, support and positive energy.”

June 17, 2026 · 3 comments · Categories: Musings · Tags: ,

The very competitive Head of the Charles regatta had its lottery this week for 2026 entries, and my husband and I were successful with our mixed double, so we’ll be returning to Boston in October. For us, it’s just for the adventure because rowers come from all over the world who are much better at the sport than we’ll ever be. We enjoy just being there for the spectacle.

Last year, our double did not get in, but my husband rowed his single, and I came along for the road trip and took some photos. The river was calm and sunny when the singles launched in the early morning, although it got windy near the start of the race.

Single after leaving dock at Head of the Charles 2025.

Of course, it’s an outdoor sport and we’re not always lucky with the weather, but I expect to have a fun time regardless. My husband is very enthusiastic about the trip; he already has rebooked the Airbnb where we stayed last year and is making arrangements to carry boats for other rowers. That helps us too because, with more boats on the trailer, we get a better parking space at the regatta. Now that we’ve done this a few times, the logistics are much easier to manage.

Today was just another ordinary workday—and in everything, it was good. I woke up feeling healthy and cheerful. Because my husband and I both work from home, we always keep each other company during the day. I took a break to go out for groceries and quickly found all the items I wanted.

Although it felt hot and muggy when we went rowing after work, some rain blew in and cooled things off, and we didn’t mind a few sprinkles. After all, it’s an outdoor sport, and we’re glad to be able to enjoy it.

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Nurturing Thursday was started by Becca Givens and seeks to encourage self-nurturing and to “give the planet a much needed shot of fun, support and positive energy.”

Because there was a lot of hectic stuff going on this afternoon, my husband wasn’t finished with his workday until it was quite late. We got to the boathouse just as all the other afternoon rowers were about to leave. Nothing to complain about, though. We had the river all to ourselves for a relaxing sunset row, the water was mostly calm, there was still plenty of time for a quick dinner after we came home and had our showers, and I wasn’t in a rush to write this post before midnight. All good things!

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Nurturing Thursday was started by Becca Givens and seeks to encourage self-nurturing and to “give the planet a much needed shot of fun, support and positive energy.”

June 4, 2026 · 2 comments · Categories: Musings · Tags: ,

Now that we’re into June, the weather has turned much nicer here in Ohio, with sunny days and less wind. I got rained on in Tennessee during my early morning single race on Saturday, but I didn’t mind because I took third place, the races were not delayed, the sun came out later, and my husband and I had a good time.

Meanwhile, it’s getting toward winter in Auckland, but our daughter says there are still some warm days. She takes the dog to the beach when the weather permits. That is one pampered-looking pooch.

Photo of dog resting under a sunshade on a beach.

Even though I know it’s probably not as warm as it looks, that photo makes me want to be there anyway!